recently i was asked by a stranger if i find forgiveness easy. at first i was going to reply 'no'. then i realised that actually i do find forgiveness easy, for i believe that all forgiveness is, is a choice in one moment to forgive.
what is the challenge for me is in staying stuck in refusing to make that choice combined with rehashing an event, the past and so on, instead of letting it all go and choosing forgiveness.
several things help me to forgive and they are..
seeing all behaviour that isn't love as a cry for love. we all have our wounds, the places we hurt, we are all in places that reflect what we have learnt in our life and so on. i ask myself the question.. would i do any better with the same life experinces and knowledge as this person?
knowing that if i am upset with someone that is about my feelings, my issues and wounds... not about the other person. just because i have a wound there is no point being upset with the other person.
remembering that a few years ago i was in a different place and i behaved very differently from how i may behave now or even next year..in this way i can have compassion for how the other person has behaved.
i know that when i am not holding onto resentment and anger, when i am not going over and over the past, when i am feeling compassion and understanding for myeslf and others, i feel so much better on all levels.
i have found if i can use any of the above ways of seeing an event or person (including myself) then its so easy to have compassion and so choose forgiveness. i have found this is enough and that i dont need any complicated processes.
